So I have this friend...

I won't name names, but I have this friend that's been having a rough time lately. It seems that she has someone in her life who brings her down instead of lifting her up. I'd like to take this opportunity to address this issue the simplest way I can.

Complaining will get you nowhere. It is a waste of time. It makes you feel like shit and it does nothing but put the attention on your agitator (which is usually what they want)

Bottom line: If you feel worse about yourself after being around a "friend" chances are it's never going to change.

Think about this... we are humans, we are perfectly capable of changing an aspect of our lives we don't like. Yes, sometimes it really is that black and white. For the sake of saving my ass I will admit that sometimes situations can get a bit complicated, but for the most part that's the way it is. I strongly believe this life is about as much positive reinforcement as possible. If there's a person in your life that is stomping on your lust for life MOVE ON. You don't deserve to be on the bottom of any shoe.

You owe it to yourself to be the best you can be and the people in your life should be cheering you on every step of the way
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Seriously, if there's someone in your life that makes you feel like you're a foot tall stop complaining and do something about it. Sometimes the relationship can be salvaged, sometimes it can't, but that's the dice you have to roll in order to excel.

Moving on can be hard, but it's feasible. It's not usually the easy road, but that doesn't mean it's not worth a try.

If there's someone like this in your life, step back and look at it from another viewpoint. Ask yourself, "am I happy around this person?", "am I able to discuss issues that are important to me?", "do I feel secure around this person?". If the answer is no do your soul a favor and do what you need to do to be happy. There's someone out there that will embrace ALL of you, not just the part of you that's "convenient" for them.

Be good to yourself, remove the toxic waste and smile that wonderful smile.This isn't an uncommon thing. It's imperative in this day and age to surround yourself with as much positive energy as you can. If there's someone out there who is keeping you from doing that I recommend you blow them and kiss and walk off into the sunset.
Have faith, you'll be OK. If you don't believe me click the link below. It's from a blog I visit regularly called Icing. She's great, and she gives great advice. Go have a look, the last paragraph is the punch in the gut.
http://galadarling.com/article/negative-people